Monthly Archives: June 2015

Daves of the Week Radio Show 19.06.2015.

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Daves of the Week Radio Show 19.06.2015.

On our latest show of Daves of the Week on Surrey Hills Community Radio we discuss and explore ten facts about dementia. Listen back on Mixcloud and please add your thoughts or comments. We would love to hear from you.

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Daves of the week – 19 06 2015 by Surrey Hills Community Radio on Mixcloud

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Less Well Known Conspiracy Theories.

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Less Well Known Conspiracy Theories.

We all know the big conspiracy theories; J.F.K, the moon landing and Area 51. Yet, can they be said to be successful conspiracies? If the main point is to remain secret and hidden and generally pull the wool over people’s eyes, then they can be said to be failed conspiracies as people know about them. Even if they did or did not happen. They are known. The more successful conspiracies are the ones that have remained uncovered…until now!

Conspiracy Number 1 – Lip balm actually makes your lips drier.

Think about it. If you are selling something, what is the one thing you want your customers to do? The answer is to keep buying your product. Have you ever thought ‘My lips are dry. I shall apply some lip balm. Hmm, my lips are still dry. I shall apply more lip balm.’ Ad infinitum. It is against the interests of the all powerful lip balm corporations to cure the problem of chapped lips as it means no more product is bought. What better way to people buying lip balm than for it to do the exact opposite of what it is meant to do. Making lips drier means more lip balm is bought. It is really rather clear.

Conspiracy Number 2 – Mobile battery makers are in secret cahoots with energy companies. 

I read a great quote today. ‘My mobile phone spends so much time on charge it might as well be a landline.’ I could not agree more. All my phone seems to do is charge and then run out of energy, much like an overweight knight. Now, I understand that this might be one of those things, but perhaps, just perhaps, there is something more sinister at work here. My belief is that mobile phone battery makers and energy companies have made a deal. Batteries constantly need charging which means more electricity is needed and this means more profit. I strongly suspect that the battery makers get a greatly reduced electricity bill. Heinous!

Conspiracy Number 3 – SatNavs are in league with petrol companies. 

‘At the next left, please continue for four miles.’ Hmm, this seems a suspiciously longer route. Why does th SatNav want me to go this way? The answer is simple. The petrol companies have paid off the SatNav people to take you on a longer journey so you have to use more petrol and kerching. I expect the SatNav exces get all the lovely petrol they can drink. Is there no end to people’s greed?

Conspiracy NUmber 4 – Biscuits are designed to fall into your tea when dunking them.

This is definitely the most evil conspiracy there is and the one that affects me the hardest and the most. If we can put a man on the moon (or so they say) you cannot tell me that we as a race cannot tell how long a biscuit should be submersed in tea before it falls apart and ruining an otherwise fine day. They are made to fall apart before you can get it into your mouth. A biscuit that has half fallen into tea and remained relatively dry is a unsatisfying biscuit. Another biscuit is clearly needed to be dunked to achieve the original desired result. This invariably ends up with more biscuit in the tea and as a double whammy, a now undrinkable cup of tea with biscuit sludge at the bottom. This is why this is fo fiendish. It makes you make another cup of tea. Both tea makers and biscuit makers benefit. You have to buy more of their respective products and you still didn’t get the lovely tea soaked biscuit into your mouth.

I think we can all agree we live in a scary world. I would love to hear from you on other lesser known conspiracies or your thoughts on those that I have uncovered so far.

Take care buddies,

David.

Moving on from and staying ahead of depression.

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Moving on from and staying ahead of depression.

I have reached a stage in my life where I no longer think I suffer from depression and I am no longer depressed. All in all I am happy with my lot in life. What I am considering is how to move on from the concept of being a person who has been depressed and more importantly, (for me anyway) is how to stay ahead of it happening again.

For a period of time after finishing therapy I feel I have been treading water. Now I want to be able to swim forward with big powerful strokes. I must say that this is very unlike my actual swimming which consists of an enthusiastic doggy paddle at best. I do acknowledge that being able to find some semblance of normality and balance in life is a gift and I am very grateful for it.

I believe it is the time of simply being normal that has helped me see what is actually in my life. For the most part, I am seeing the good things that do exist as opposed to the perceived or imagined problems that do not. I am not saying there are not any problems in my life, but I know that I tend to panic spiral about situations and make myself see them as worse than they actually are.

I have learnt recently that there is a new approach to tackling depression which is the idea of prevention being better than cure. I will use myself as an example and say that the theory is that if I take better care of myself mentally and physically then I am less likely to suffer from depression again, or if I do, then to suffer the effects less severely. Now, I know that depression is a vast and complex issue and I am not saying this is a cure all that will work for everyone. However, I think this idea can work for me, and so far it has seemed to.

First off, I feel empowered to even think about being prepared to deal with problems. I feel more prepared to face problems and find ways to deal with them as opposed to dreading even the tiniest problem as I saw it as already being insurmountable. In my mind I see it as being like a ninja in fighting stance ready to take on any unseen assailants.

Another thing I heard of, and this has really stuck with me, is that a lot of what people think are mental events rather than reality. As I have mentioned, in the past I have tended to imagine the worst and think things are much more severe than they are. What I have found useful when a thought like that occurs is stop and ask myself; is this real? Has it happened? Is it likely to happen? The answer to these questions is invariably no. What this has helped me do is to be a hell of a lot calmer. I spend less time stressed over non-events or I am able to put them into perspective and they are not as bad as they first appeared.

I am of the opinion that certain aspects of depression can stay with a person even after they no longer feel depressed. Habits form in every aspect of our lives and I see no reason why this is any different. I formed the habit of worrying too much. By trying to stop this and think in a different way I am attempting to form a new habit. Time will tell, but so far so good.

One of the contradictions, as I see it, of having been depressed, but no longer being so, is that I am overly aware and scared of being sad; let alone actually depressed. I think I have seen sadness as a potential backslide into depression and to be avoided at all costs. Obviously I now see this as putting a ridiculous amount of pressure on myself. Perhaps I thought I should be more like a robot?

Two weeks ago I was the most down I have been in ages. I was angry and upset at what was happening in my life and I lost control for a night. The next day I told myself to stop being so damn harsh. Being angry, hurt, upset or whatever at things in life is fine. In fact, it is more than fine; it is being a human being. The trick for me is to not let it go on for any longer than needed. If I am down I get back up and try and figure it out.

My conclusion, if I have one, is that it is fine to have moments that feel like a backslide, or to have an actual backslide as long as I get the momentum going forward again and to use whatever tools work to keep it going that way.

Take care buddies,

David.