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David’s Thought of the Day 85.

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David’s Thought of the Day 85.

The thing about advice is that you can listen to it but if it doesn’t ring true with you, then don’t follow it. Choose the path that is right for you at this point in your life. You are of-course  free to not follow this advice. 

Take care buddies, 

David. 

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Tackling Depression The Same Way I Tackle Computer Games – Part 3.

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Tackling Depression The Same Way I Tackle Computer Games – Part 3.

So, I am coming to the end of this idea as I am running out of ideas. I hope it has helped someone, or made people smile at least. So, here are three more ways that ideas from computer games can help tackle depression.

Use Gadgets.

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Much like Batman and his trusty Bat-Belt, which is helping me through the next hardest instance of Batman: Arkham Origins there are a few gadgets out there that can help ease you through a depressive period. You can also use gadgets that are not intended for the purpose of fighting depression in different ways.

One thing I did was set reminders on my phone to give me a little pick me up and boost general confidence. I would set a little message to pop up in a few days to cheer myself up. I have a rubbish memory so I often forgot about them by the time I got them. My usual message was ‘Dear David. You Rock! Lots of love, David.’ I would read them and think ‘Aw, that was nice of me.’

There are a host of relaxation or mediation apps out there and some very good ones can be had for free. I really like Dr Monica Frank, but there are enough that you can pick and choose. Ten minutes of relaxation can really take the stress out of a day and help you deal with situations more calmly.

Finally, chart your depression on your phone. I recorded when depression would hit and if there was anything obvious that led to it or made it worse. from this, I was able to learn that there were certain triggers that I could later either be ready for and expect or avoid altogether.

Solving Puzzles.

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Now, the last idea segued into this idea so neatly, it was almost like I planned it. If you, like me, have spent a lot of time trying to figure out dastardly clever puzzles from the Resident Evil games, you know how vexing they can be. Yet, the pride in solving them without using the internet is immense. Once you have charted your depression, you can start trying to figure out the puzzle of depression. Or try to. As with many of my ideas, I believe there is a certain strength that can be found when you actively try and take control of depression. It may not work at first, or at all, but it feels good to be on the front foot and try and beat it, rather than letting it have it all its own way. Look for links to what makes you down, think how you can make your life easier. Each person’s depression is unique to them, so you will have to do the ground work. I believe it will be helpful when you do.

Ask The Village Elders For Advice on Your Quest. 

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Invariably in an RPG, I will get lost or plain forget what it is that I am doing. I need advice. Who to go to? Easy, there is always a village elder who can give some advice, even if it is needlessly cryptic, about how to get past the next challenge of my quest. I personally believe that talking to a therapist is a great way to ask for help in tackling your depression. They can guide you past the choppy waters. Also, asking your friends for help can be comforting. I asked my friend the other day if he ever got angry for no reason and then angrier for getting angry for no reason? He said ‘Of course.’ It easy to think that what you think is crazy and no-one else feels the same. Simply by asking a question, it can be a relief to find out that you are far from the only person who thinks a certain way. It really can help alleviate the loneliness of feeling no-one can help you or advise you. There is a comfort in simply sharing your fears; once you get over the fear of talking about it at all.

If you have any of your own ideas on how computer games can help tackle depression, then please feel free to share and comment.

Take care buddies,

David.

Writing to agents and dealing with rejection.

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Writing to agents and dealing with rejection.

First off, this is not a ‘tips for dealing with rejection letters from agents’ type post. It might be by the end, but I am at the stage of feeling rejected, but not having fully dealt with it yet.

I got my third rejection letter today.  I sent my first book to seven agents over three months ago. The three letters were all very positive and said they liked my book but…you can figure the rest out I am sure. I am not sure how I feel about positive rejection yet. It really is a catch 22 situation. I have been rejected (bad) but they liked my book and suggested that I send it to other agents (good) (I think) (I hope).

So, if I look on the bright side, then my percentage of being turned down is less than 50%. I grant you that the percentage for possible rejection is above 50%, but at least there is still the same percentage for an agent saying ‘Yes please.’ I also grant that maths is not my strong point.

So what it comes down to is I am going to believe in the potential for my book being picked up rather than the potential for never getting an agent. In a choice between to unknowns, I might as well go with the positive one as both are equally likely to happen or not happen.

You can take that as a tip if you want to. Even I think it is tenuous, so I leave it in your capable hands.

Oh, and if you have any advice for me on dealing with rejection (and I know about the getting drunk one already) then please let me know. It would be appreciated.

Take care buddies,

David.

Get into cover Maxy boy!

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Get into cover Maxy boy!

I need to fess up. As good as my intentions were in trying to paint a picture where depression can be fought and beaten, I hold my hands up and admit ‘God damn it can be hard sometimes.’ I am even bumming myself out with my posts, so Christ knows why anyone else would want to read this. 

Even when you think you are doing your best and trying your hardest to be a good person, life can throw a banana peel in your way and you slip back much further than you thought you would. However, I am going to get a positive today even it kills me (a little black humour depression joke for you there). 

I am going to take my own advice. When all I can do is bunker down and simply be ok, that is what I am going to do. I am using my bullet-time and getting into cover for today, but I will figure out how to come out of cover guns blazing for tomorrow.